Hopeless Nice Guys

I watched A Walk to Remember again...I have lost count of how many times I've seen this movie. This movie has more elements on the subject of love than other romance movies I've seen...or know...just because of the simplicity of the storyline. Bad boy falls for good girl. Good girl changes bad boy. Good girl has cancer. Bad-turned-good-boy does everything to make her happy. Story ends.

Mandy Moore plays such a simplistic girl with such a sincere outlook on life. There is no emphasis on exterior beauty (with the exception of the scene where she sings Only Hope at the play), but the focus is on her innocence. Alright...this isn't a movie review or any sort of review. I just like this movie...

Which got me thinking about the whole "nice guys finish last" concept. Some girls complain that there are no more "nice guys" left in the world...and every guy has turned into the bad boy. Thus all girls are stuck with an asshole boyfriend or something whose only concern is to score the chick instead of developing anything serious. That's the reason nice guys finished last...the bad boy don't give a fuck and grab the opportunity while the nice guy stays low or has a certain level of respect for the girl and not put pressure on her. Look at Superbad...Seth just wants to get Jules wasted and fuck her before college while Evan "doesn't want to put that kind of pressure" on Becca...but in the end neither of them gets laid and socially-awkward McLovin somewhat scores before being cock-blocked.

Let's be serious again. The bad boy does not care about establishing any sort of relationship. Sure, he get to sleep with the girl, and leaves after wards. But then when he meets the girl again, it gets awkward. I've seen this happen with my roommate during lunch...the girl sees him, strikes up a conversation, and he just wants to end the talk. Then he turns to me and says, "That was so awkward. She was the first girl I slept with." I really don't care who he slept with. It's practically a new cliche to say "I slept with her." Just as much as "that's what she said" is a cliche. A damn good cliche.

While girls complain about the lack of good guys in the world, I don't think it's necessarily that there is a lack of good guys. People like to hear what they want to hear. "I wish there were more guys like you." Well why don't you go out with him? Or "I wish I were lucky to have you as a girlfriend." Well as her out. Don't make people feel better by saying what they want to hear...it's very oxymoronish. Cause...and it's in He's Just Not that Into You when they do those interview cut scenes...well why don't YOU do something about it?

Anyways...so back to why are nice guys hopeless? The idea is related to A Walk to Remember. I've been watching it on YouTube, and many comments I've seen deal with girls wanting a bad boy for them to tame into the good guy persona. What is it with the challenge of taming the bad boy? I really don't know cause I've never tried...for obvious reasons.

Although it seems clear that the bad boy persona is the fastest and easiest way to get the girl, it seems to be the most unsincere method. To be quite honest, I like being the nice guy. I'm not sure if I'd label myself as the nice guy...I just like helping people. My friend Alex[ander] once complained to that I'm an asshole for being the nice guy. I can't exactly remember how he phrased it, but he said something along the lines that I help random girls who I barely know know with no interest of being repayed...and that I don't help guys...which no guy has ever asked for help. I think it's a great thing to help people out...if people helped each other more often without the intention of repayment...I guess that would be called sincere aid or something...maybe people wouldn't be as greedy.

Back up now...bad boys. I don't think it's simple to change a bad boy into a good guy. I think that...girls want the bad boy. Although they say the world is mising the nice guy, it seems that girls want to change the bad boy into the nice guy. They want to be the one who was able to change the boy into a guy.